Educated fools

I was coming to office today on the bike (sitting behind Yogesh). We were on the Rajiv Gandhi bridge on Mula river. I noticed that the river was starting to look a little better due to heavy rains last week.

Just then I saw a silver sedan parked at the side of the bridge on Mula river. A guy who looked liked he worked in a good company, got out of it. He walked to the edge and threw contents from a huge plastic bag in the river - flowers, garlands, cotton wicks, other cotton, papers that were used to wrap flowers, etc. After throwing this garbage, he threw the plastic bag too in the river!

I was shocked by the utter lack of shame in that guy. He showed no concern for the environment and ecosystem. PCMC has already kept decorative garbage collection bins on the bridge to discourage people from throwing it in the river. But devotees think that throwing above stuff in the river will take it to the real God. Or they don't want to throw puja stuff in regular garbage and invite the wrath of God. If people like him really believe that God is everywhere, they should not be polluting the river. Anyway, tired of the stink, God might have left the river years back!

 

Migraine and the relationship

I've joined some online migraine support forums. Basically they are ordinary people like me who go through everyday life stress with a chronic illness. I shouldn't call them ordinary people though - they are superheroes. They are doing everything and much more by taking care of their chores and responsibilities while under attack from the monster migraine.

Relationships particularly can be very difficult and if a partner suffers a headache, the other one suffers too - mentally and emotionally. Hence when I came across this link http://migraine.com/blog/spouses-and-migraine-disease/, I could relate so much to this and wanted to share it on my blog too. 

When Yogesh and I had first met, I had discussed my migraine with him clearly, but I'm sure that he didn't know what he was actually getting into. And like the lady in the article, today I do not want to ask him the question that, had he known my migraine better the day we decided to get married, would he have gone ahead with it. I'm afraid of the real answer too.

Yet, I am lucky that Yogesh cares (or sometimes chooses to ignore me altogether) when I am going through another migraine attack. His words 'Take your medicines and go sleep' make the world of difference to me. And being ignored is ok too, as then I don't have to suffer the guilt of making him 'do' stuff for me. Plus he can focus his energies on other work in the house. I know that he gets frustrated sometimes and may speak out once in a while, but that is entirely human. At such times though I feel defensive, I have to make myself let go.


It definately takes an effort to keep the relationship going, and I pray that we don't lose the will to do it.